What is Tantra?
Tantra is "Embodid Spirituality" Martin Jelfs. celebrating all aspects of our being, integrating sexuality and spirituality, honouring all as Divine. to learn about Tantra see www.tantra.uk.com
What happens initially at a session?
When we meet we discuss what you want from the session and our work together. We will be as honest as possible about what the forms of massage, bodywork, healing meditation and ritual are and how they may help you.We will of course discuss boundaries yours and mine. In this part of the session, particularly if it is your first you will also be assessing the therapist and inevitably asking yourself if you do trust him/her. Trust is not something you can just switch on; it has to be earnt.
Why would any woman trust such deep, vulnerable and sacred parts to a man when she will certainly have been hurt, and possibly abused by men?
It is precisely because of this that there is a deep hunger in many women for a transformative experience. Healing happens from having a different experience and avoiding intimacy can keep you trapped. Traditional therapy focuses on working through pain and trauma; tantra offers the additional possibility that experiences of bliss can heal and dissolve held pain. See Shivoham article on the Tantric Healing page on www.shivoham.asia
What is involved?
Every person is unique and every encounter different, so this simple question is hard to answer. The principles are simply, witnessing and honouring your feminine essence which is basically radiance; the radiance of the Divine, of energy, beauty and passion and removing anything which gets in the way of that happening. The practices are all based in those principles and the qualities of Shiva and it is best to decide in initial meeting could include;
- ritual to affirm and honour the goddess in you with breathing, movement, mantras.tantric massage and Mayan belly/womb massage
- body coaching “ coaching to bring your breath into your feminine centre of power “ the belly, to bring more energy and pleasure into your whole body integrating sexuality, your emotions and your whole being
- Yoni or Vajra healing to bring awareness and healing to the place in the body where past trauma and shame are held
- body therapy integrating your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual self
- affirming and worshipping the Yoni / Vajra as a seat of pleasure, power and the temple gateway of the goddess
- G-spot massage to awaken the Goddess within and also to develop a capacity to produce amrtita; female ejaculation.
Do I have to take my clothes off?
Everything that happens is with respect for your boundaries so nothing is involved that you do not deeply want. However, fear often causes us to use our boundaries as a way of staying in, safe, familiar and stuck places. With any massage, the less clothes the better as the skin is a great receiver of touch - the primary language of the body. Shame causes us to hide and contract and tantra gives us the tools and the permission to expand and radiate our nature. This needs to be witnessed in a safe, clear and sacred space.
How much do you charge and how long is a session?
This work is beyond price. We do not want to exclude anyone who sincerely want to change and yet I also need to honour myself, my experience and my needs. it is an impossible conundrum in a marketplace-driven society. My rate needs to be based on £65 an hour and sessions need to be at least one and a half hours long; two is better. If you genuinely cannot afford this then let us discuss what is possible. This is less than half the rate charged for tantric massage to men on most London websites where you will usually find a masseuse with virtually no tantra training or experience. We have 25 years of practice and training.
Tantric Healing Massage has a strict policy for confidentiality. The information you provide to Tantric Healing Massage is confidential and protected to the fullest extent possible. Tantric Healing Massage will not disclose or distribute customer information to third parties.
Do you use oils?
I usually use a mixture natural organic grape seed and sweet almond oils, which feels very sensuous but light. I can also use powder if you prefer. Occasionally I also use Natural Vitamin E oil, also powder can be used instead.
Two hours is the normal session length, though it is beneficial to have a serious of sessions. There is a shower facility, though as I will be using special blends of oils and the energies directing upwards and re-circulating around the body, if you are able to stay with the oils until total absorption, to have a shower after at least two hours later that would be best also from energetic point of view.
Why do you do this work?
Shakti: It is a great honour and privilege to facilitate a platform for healing and bliss, to enable people to unlock the huge potential within them, to be fully expressive and fully connected and integrate all parts of their being, creating healing integrating and owning our sexual nature.
I have been teaching Tantra for many years and facilitating healing in many modalities from psychodynamic counselling, psychosexual therapies, to colour puncture and sound healing using mantras.
Shivoham: After many years as a conventional therapist, I realised that by working directly with the sexual and erotic energy and the body, healing could be speeded up. It is sacred work which requires a good deal of maturity and self-knowledge to do. I have worked as a therapist, trained and supervised therapists, been a father of two grown-up sons and one stepdaughter, travelled and learnt with tantric teachers in the west and in India. I am married and in a committed relationship. This work is powerful, often awesome; moving in to sacred spaces to meet the Goddess. It is an honour to witness and be given such trust. I am not doing this to meet my own sexual needs
Female Ejaculation ,
Women can ejaculate or squirt large amounts of clear liquid when aroused. Amazingly, this seems to be new information for many women, many doctors and even gynaecologists! It is not urine or lubricant and is the female equivalent of the fluid from the prostate that men mix with sperm and ejaculate.
There are references to the female ejaculation of fluid with orgasm as early as Aristotle in ancient Greece. In the East the ancient tantric practitioners called it amrita. The Kama Sutra mentions it clearly and Shakespeare called it "the water of my love." It wasn't until about 400 years ago that a Dutch anatomist, Regnier De Graaf, clearly defined the glands and ducts and said they were analogous to the male prostate. This started a scientific trend of referring to the G-Spot as the female prostate. In 1880 Alexander Skene, extensively studied and illustrated the glands and ducts. It is based in the same structure known as the G-spot after Granfenberg who wrote about it in 1950 as a "new" orgasmic trigger!
The release can be anything from a few drops that are easily missed; to gushing of half a litre or more of liquid. The reservoir it comes from holds typically about 150 ml but it can replenish quickly.
As women’s genitals are mostly hidden, many women know little in detail. For example the visible clitoris under its hood is the tip of a large structure which goes deep into the body with two branches around either side of the vagina. The whole structure has as much erectile tissue which can become engorged with blood as a man – it is just internal. The clitoris has as many as 6,000 nerve endings and as far as we know, is the only organ in the whole of nature whose only purpose is pleasure!
In the past some women feared that they had wet themselves with urine and may have felt ashamed. It is now time to reclaim this as a wonderful affirmation of female sexuality. The squirting can happened with a large orgasm but it is not necessarily part of an orgasm and can just feel like a relief. As its release is almost always connected to stimulation of the G-spot the orgasm can be slow, deep and moving to encompass the whole body. In contrast clitoral orgasms are usually shorter and more genitally focussed.
The “blessing” of a shower of amrita in lovemaking should be experienced as a great honour. In some tantric rituals this can be collected and consumed. It affirms the woman’s deep connection to her sexuality and the blessing of her body and her lover. Not ejaculating should never be seen as a sign of inadequacy, but of the possibility of further discoveries in the lifelong journey to the Source and the Soul which is both deep inside and beyond us.
Probably every woman can learn to ejaculate. It usually needs stimulation of the female prostate area for quite a long time in the first instance but it comes easier in time. For some women quite a lot of pressure is needed and the assistance of bearing down to initially release the flow. The first time this is done can be quite frightening; bringing up fear of loss of control and soiling. It is best with a partner whom you can trust very deeply to be present and make the space safe and clear. They need to strongly encourage you if fears arise.
The following extract from gives a wonderful sense of this from a blog by Kavida; see http://kavidarei.blogspot.com/ for all the blog.
I must admit I felt a trifle fraudulent. How could I call myself a Tantric Goddess when I couldn’t produce a bit of amrita for God’s sake? Then I began to tell myself that it was all a load of fuss about nothing and that made me feel better. I gave myself a good talking to and reassured myself that I can climax till kingdom come, orgasms feel good, I should thank my lucky stars that I am orgasmic and certainly stop fixating on the absence of ejaculation, especially when my sex life is obviously rich and rewarding in every way imaginable... I put it on hold for a while and didn’t even think about my prostate for over a year.
Then, last month our sexy friend Gem came round to make raw chocolate mousse for our Sensual Soiree and we got chatting about her own journey on the squirting trail. As you probably know I have a fabulous new partner whom I referred to as ‘H’ in my last blog. At the time he wanted his true identity kept secret, having led a very private life until bumping into me. But let’s face it, if you’re dating a celebrity goddess you can’t expect to stay undercover for very long. After much negotiation and many months in the tantric fast lane, he is finally agreeing to be written about. His name is Roland and he’s either very brave or very foolish...
Ro, like me has a great appetite for life in general and, also like me is particularly fascinated with the ins and outs, as it were, of sexuality. When Ro heard Gem waxing lyrical about the joys of squirting and saw a shadow of disappointment drift across my face (after all, its rare for me to not be able to join in a conversation) he became a man on a mission.
A couple of nights later I found myself pinned to the bed (Roland can be very forceful when he’s made up his mind to do something. I like that in a guy) with a lot of intensively-focused activity going on below. He hadn’t been asked to do lots of sensitive prostate massage for weeks on end, which I’m sure contributed to the fact that he seemed very keen to get started on the job at hand. I kept insisting that I needed a piss. I also kept trying to sit up and get to the loo. This was a mistake. Roland does not like to be deterred when he’s nearing any goal and he set to work even more fervently, shoving my head back down on the pillow and telling me to “just fucking pee if you need to!” He also told me I needed to let go of control. One thing a control freak hates being told is that they’re a control freak. “Fuck you” I thought, "I’m NOT a control freak! You’re a control freak! Right, I’m going to piss in your hand then...".
The whole thing seemed to have turned into some kind of battle, but being a Leo and also incredibly stubborn, I wasn’t going to be defeated. Resigned to the fact that there was no way I was going to be allowed off the bed until any kind of liquid even remotely resembling ejaculate had been released, I surrendered and stopped resisting. I pushed down, instead of contracting upwards, which is the normal muscular movement that happens when approaching orgasm and simply willed it to happen with all my might. Ro’s hand on my neck, pinning my body to the bed with great force was an added erotic feature. I’m always grateful for Roland’s strength and masculinity – a man who never wavers until he gets the job done. This is one of the factors that makes it practical for us to work together (you couldn’t have guessed that I’m a fanatical perfectionist, right?) and certainly the reason I’m now able to claim that I’m a fully paid-up member of the squirting club.
I wouldn’t want you to imagine Roland like some kind of brutish, sexual bully who pins women to beds on a regular basis. Nothing could be further from the truth. He doesn’t like to brag, and hardly anyone knows that he is a fine acoustic guitarist whose musicality and artistic finesse translates neatly over to his sensitive and skilful lovemaking. But every so often, a woman like me needs the kind of man who will masterfully render you incapable of moving, using whatever methods are necessary and then proceed to encourage (dominate) you until you give in. And (lucky old me) Roland is blessed with an equal balance of yin and yang. Eureka! I felt my erstwhile neglected prostate pulsating and releasing its nectar of the gods. I sat up in astonishment and marvelled at the amazing gush of clear liquid pouring from my yoni, forming a puddle below.
I shall try to find words to describe the experience. The actual squirt itself has got nothing on orgasm and in itself is a bit of an anti-climax (a weak pun I know), but it’s the post-ejaculation bliss I’m most excited to tell you about...It was as if years’ worth of tension had been released. Softly glowing, golden light filled my womb. A thousand tiny fairies were flying about in there, sending electrical charges from their wands which snaked into and caressed the deepest crevices of my pelvis. This was a kind of sartori – bliss descended upon both of us and we spooned together without moving a muscle, lost in ecstatic reverie, falling into an unintentional, yet deeply healing meditation.
This was what they’d been banging on about – I had finally found the hogly grail.
I didn’t dare try again right away, although I was tempted. I was a bit worried I might run out - although apparently once you get going you can squirt all night, gallons and gallons of the stuff, but that sounds like way too much laundry for my liking.
After rising, I floated about the house, with a sense of immense power and profound calm, my pelvis softly vibrating and still glowing. I felt like shouting from the rooftops, sending out a group text and posting it on my Facebook wall.
So, those of you who haven’t quite made it yet – don’t give up. The end result is really worth it, I promise. But if you’re still struggling down the road, I might spare Roland for a few hours. He rides a Harley and can get anywhere fast...
From Kavida’s excellent blog at http://kavidarei.blogspot.com/
If you want to explore ejaculation then it naturally follows from an exploration of the G-spot in deep tantric massage. This is not really possible in one session for most women. A realistic pattern is to have three sessions; the first introductory session is a meeting, building trust, discussion and some whole body massage; the second can work with stronger states of arousal including the G-spot; and the third can concentrate on G-spot arousal and how to bear down to encourage ejaculation. This work is never just a matter of "pressing the right button" - men tend to like a manual with all the instruction! It is about deep trust, feeling held and sensing that the man's ego is not involved in this.
Catholicism and Women
"Give me a child until he is seven and we have him for life", used to be the rather chilling claim of the Jesuits, essentially recognising, as any therapist would, the formative nature of the early years. If you were brought up as a Catholic then I suggest you think back to your earliest memories of church or priests or nuns; if possible to when you were five or six years old. The memory might have the smell of incense, hymns, learning the catechism, or images from posters or stained glass windows or of candles. It may also include stories from the Bible, or the life of saints and people you encountered connected with the Church.
Amongst the most powerful are the smells of incense and the images as well as the people you remember. These things go in more deeply to the mind than words. To a small child, many of the words make little sense; but the images and some of the stories told go in deeply.
As a girl, what images of women do you recall? You may recall your mother in Church. How was she; humble, devote, bored, deferential, celebratory? Another image that will almost certainly come to you is of the Virgin Mary. She was probably rather pale, holding Jesus, and a symbol of purity, patience and motherhood. There may have been pictures or stories of female saints, St. Theresa, Joan of Arc, and there will have been your perception of the women who supported the church, helped the priest; arranged the flowers. It is from these images, these people and these stories that you will have got a sense of what it means to be a woman in a woman's body and most of this will have been absorbed quite unconsciously by the age of six. In particular you will have absorbed from the real women you met; how they were in their body. If they moved and breathed and lived from the passion in their belly and yoni or were they stiff, dried out and perhaps resigned. In Catholicism it is very easy to get the message that women are best as virgins or martyrs or at least Bride's of Christ, or failing that their job is to invisibly support the male priests who is God's true representative and on Earth. He also reminds you that God is obviously a man. By example and by omission you have a sense - often from what is not said; that purity, service, humility and martyrdom or at least motherhood is your highest calling.
Of course this isn't the essential message of Christianity - a religion based on love but without any clear prescription of how to make love or transmute the energy of love within the body. It is also a religion which rapidly got taken over by a male dominated hierarchy which was adopted by the expansionist, military Roman State. There have always been the mystics; men and women who were different and some of the passion and the feminine crept in, for example to the Songs of Solomon and in the inspiring music and the paintings of Hildegard of Bingen. I am sure that this yearning for the feminine in Christianity is behind the huge popularity of the fictional Da Vinci Code book. The picture below is by Hildegard of Bingen and shows a yoni shape complete with clitoris as a wonderful vortex of colour!
Unlike Mediterranean countries, Catholicism in UK and Ireland seems to have been dominated by sin, guilt, shame and fear and, particularly in Ireland, by far too many people who had severe problems with their sexuality and relationships resulting in abuse, paedophilia and some very sadistic behaviour towards children. In Spain or Italy, Catholicism seem to have been able to acquire a much more celebratory, sensuous aliveness at least in some areas.
The message usually goes in deeply and early that as a girl, you will become a woman and then best role is as virgin, martyr, or a behind-the-scenes servant of men. God, the Pope and the priest as His representatives are supreme and are all male. And possibly somewhere as a subtext, you get the sense that being a woman is something shameful; to do with sexuality, unclean things and the power to corrupt and lead astray.
At adolescence with the blossoming of sexuality, these messages are usually reinforced at a conscious level leading either to more sense of shame and guilt or to a rebellion and loss of belief. However the unconscious messages remain after the conscious mind has arrived at different beliefs. The escapes can often be in to promiscuous rebellion or in to anorexia; a secular version of fasting to death and the denial of adult sexuality. Occasionally it leads to an obsession with “Dark Eros” and the forbidden in sex.
The traces all this leave in the adult woman are guilt, shame and fear in various mixtures locked in the body and the mind. Guilt is about what we have done and the Catholic Church creates guilt from its prohibitions and also provides a remedy in confession and absolution. If you leave the Church you are left with the guilt without the relief. This guilt can become unconscious. Shame however is deeper; it is not about what you have done but about who you are. It is often connected with our bodies as the visible embodiment of who us. Sexuality, and for women menstruation, tie you even more in to the body and therefore closer to "sins of the flesh" and desire. No wonder that so much religious fervour is directed at the body, through chastisement and towards women as literally embodying the flesh, desire, sexuality and temptation for the priests and the pious. As shame is about who you are not what you have done; there is no escape.
The ways in which shame and guilt can be held in the body are through muscular tensions and disconnections. In terms of tension the inner thigh muscles can hold the legs closed, the lower back muscles can retract the pelvis and hold it immobile preventing the natural movement of the pelvis. General tension in the area of the diaphragm can reduce the breathing, damping down energy and cutting it off from exciting the lower belly and the genitals. The muscles in the chest area can cause the shoulders to round forward hiding the breasts. The experience of shame in particular leads to a wish to hide and therefore a contraction of the body as if trying to occupy a smaller space. Hiding means avoiding eye contact by looking down and also by not being present in the eyes; blocking real contact and seeing ourselves being seen. Tension in the diaphragm is also likely to block the voice as a powerful force, sometimes resulting in a voice that can barely go above a whisper. In disconnection which is rarer, there is dissociation from the body as if the person is not really present. Instead of being tense and contracted the body can be open but rather lifeless and the joints too loose. This may happen more in women where they rebel against the restrictions by for example becoming promiscuous in adolescence and the although physically feeling free energetically abandon their body perhaps from shame and dissociate. They may then also have experiences for which they were not prepared and which can further traumatise.
It is possible to revision Christianity as a celebration of life, love and incarnation. Such creation centred spirituality (such as developed by Matthew Fox and others) can provide a positive experience, but therapy and forms of healing which include the body are important to remove the imprints of the past. Putting the body and pleasure as central and not colluding with shame which hides are essential and tantric healing massage is the most direct way for those who have the courage to heal.
"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." Rumi
What is Sexual Healing?
by Dr. Deborah Taj Anapol, Ph.D.
Sexual healing encompasses three
broad, interrelated categories of work.Releasing genital armoring and regaining your capacity for pleasure.
Almost everyone who's come of age in our sex negative culture needs loving guidance in adulthood in order to reach their full sexual potential. Genital armoring initially occurs when children are shamed or discouraged from touching their genitals, enjoying their bodies through masturbation and engaging in natural exploration with peers. It can also result from invasive medical interventions (i.e. abortion, hysterectomy, circumcision, or cesarean delivery) insensitive or unskilled partners, rough handling, overuse of vibrators, emotional trauma, and from unfulfilling lovemaking. The most dramatic and severe genital armoring is often a result of rape or child sexual abuse but ordinary people with no personal history of abuse can easily acquire enough armoring to drastically limit their sexual pleasure simply by being exposed to societys typical anti-sex messages.
The concept of genital armoring is derived from Wilhelm Reichs theory of body armoring. Reich believed that the muscular tissue of the body responds to emotional as well as physical trauma by tensing up in a protective reflex. Over time, these tissues become chronically stiff and hard, blocking sensation and energy flow in the affected area. Armoring is an instinctive protective device whose purpose is to defend against experiencing physical or emotional pain. It is the bodily equivalent of psychological defense mechanisms such as denial, projection, or repression. It is mediated by constricting the breath and by muscular contraction, both of which reduce our capacity to experience pleasurable feelings and ultimately lead to disease.
When body armoring occurs in the sex organs we call it genital armoring. Genital armoring in women can show up as decreased arousal, decreased clitoral or vaginal sensitivity, insufficient lubrication, hypersensitivity, absence of pleasurable sensation during intercourse, vaginismus, or painful intercourse. A healthy vagina is naturally soft, wet, elastic, and electrifyingly responsive to a desirable partner. It invites the penis to enter and enthusiastically enters into a dance of love.
In men, armoring can cause the penis to become insensitive, resulting in a need for intense stimulation in order to maintain an erection or reach orgasm. Conversely, armoring can create over-sensitivity, premature ejaculation and a discomfort with being gently stroked. Armoring in men also manifests itself in the form of chronic tension in the anal sphincter muscles, involuntary erections, an attitude of sexual greed and the need for repeated genital stimulation. Men frequently have a lot of armoring in the heart area, as well, and are unable to experience pleasurable sensations from stimulation of their breasts and nipples. A healthy penis remains flexible and sensitive even when erect. It is able to transmit energy to the vagina and receive sexual pleasure both during vigorous intercourse and in a softer, resting mode.
We hypothesize that reclaiming the genitals by releasing genital armoring will not only increase the capacity for pleasure but will, when combined with appropriate lifestyle changes, contribute to curing or preventing disorders of the uro-genital system such as chronic vaginitis, chronic cystitis, menstrual or menopausal dysfunction, ovarian and uterine cysts, cancer, and enlarged prostate.Utilizing sexual energy to revitalize, rejuvenate, and heal the body.
Leading edge health care practitioners and researchers are discovering what taoist masters, tantric adepts, and shamanic healers have known for centuries: Sex is not only pleasurable, it is good for you! Sexual arousal activates the endocrine system which in turn contributes to cardiovascular health, enhances the immune system, elevates mood, and slows the aging process. Good sex can also improve your appearance, reduce stress, relieve pain, burn calories, and regulate the menstrual cycle. The basic concept involved in this aspect of sexual healing is that sickness and health are not the responsibility of medical experts, but rather come from within. By tapping into the innate wisdom and healing ability of the body via the breath and our sexual response, we create our own well being.
The ancient taoists understood that health results from raising and balancing the energy or life force within the body. Energy loss or blockage results in disease, aging, and ultimately death. Generating higher levels of sexual energy provides a means of clearing blocked pathways and directing more energy where ever it is needed for healing.
In other words, sexual energy, life force, and healing energy all come from the same source and can be transmuted into one another. The taoists determined that while sexual arousal can increase energy, excessive ejaculation depletes energy in men as does excessive menstrual flow in women. Sexual healing thus encompasses teaching men how to orgasm without ejaculating, thus allowing them to prolong intercourse, be less goal-oriented and self absorbed, and fully satisfy a woman. Leisurely, unhurried lovemaking not only energizes the body, but also contributes to happier, loving interactions between partners.
Sexual healing is also about ending the war between men and women
and learning to use our sexual energy effectively to nurture each other and experience a sense of unity with all of life.
The wound between men and women runs deep in our collective consciousness and often seems rooted in the very cells of our bodies. Men and women often find themselves polarized into opposing positions especially when it comes to sex, emotional expression, communication, and matters of the heart. The core of these differences is sometimes expressed as "men want hot sex and women want romantic love," when the truth is that both men and women long for satisfying sex and sustainable love. In the past, there has been a tendency for men and women to regard each other as the enemy, and so, if they are heterosexual, to discover that "sleeping with the enemy" leads to conflicts and power struggles.
Sexual healing in this context means finding ways to redirect the energy which is wasted in struggles over who is right and who is wrong, who is dominator and who is victim, who is to blame and who is wrongly accused, and instead support each other in solving the critical problems which face us all as we enter the 21st Century.
For many generations, men and women have been socialized differently and shamed or punished for exhibiting traits deemed inappropriate for their gender. We believe that by socializing women to repress their sexual desires and socializing men to repress their emotions, we have created a situation in which people often find it difficult to meet their needs for nurturing and erotic satisfaction. When men and women are freed from culturally imposed stereotypes and reconnect the heart and the genitals, harmony is restored and abundance is available to all.
Ancient traditions which honor the sacred union of male and female and recognize the importance of balancing the masculine and feminine elements within each of us, as well as in the external world, offer us a model for healing. Since our present culture has tended to elevate the masculine over the feminine, we find that most people approach sex and relationship from a male point of view. We seek to balance this by learning to honor the deep feminine in a way which is not merely a reaction to or mirror image of patriarchal customs, but comes from an entirely different way of being.
In order to make whole systems healing available
to whomever desires it, several core issues must be addressed.
Competent practitioners who have the aptitude, training, motivation and maturity to offer these services must be identified and offered the opportunity to acquire additional necessary skills and knowledge. In essence, we are talking about the creation of a new vocation of sexual healing. Since this is a concept which has been unthinkable in a sex negative culture such as ours, many who have felt called to this work have found validation in the ancient archetype of the sacred prostitute.
Until very recently, the concept of integrating the erotic into our healthcare system has been unthinkable. This separation has been gradually breaking down since the sixties with the renaissance of midwifery and more natural birthing procedures, the advent of prescription birth control devices, the introduction of sex therapy by Masters and Johnson, and the growing acceptance of sex surrogates in clinical practice.
Given what we have previously discussed about the overlap between sexual energy and healing energy, and the basic identity of the life force energy and sexual energy, it seems obvious, at least to some of us, that trying to restore health when it is forbidden to utilize the sexual energy of either the patient or the health care practitioner is foolhardy.
While facilitating birth, death, and every life aspect in between, including erotic ritual, were once the role of ancient priestess/healers, the splitting off of sex and spirit, not to mention body and mind, has led to a state in which realistic fears of exploitation and manipulation have enforced an official separation between health care delivery, spiritual counseling, and eroticism. Consequently, licensing requirements for every profession, without exception, prohibit sexual contact with clients. As a result, we must explore legitimate alternatives for providing sexual healing.
A paradigm shift of the magnitude we are envisioning can best be accomplished by creating a self-sufficient erotic community in which new ways of being can be developed and nurtured in a protected environment and eventually shared with the world. Our next step is to secure a suitable physical location where 20 to 30 people can comfortably live together, free of other responsibilities, and share in an alchemical process which will serve to create a solid core group from which further growth can flourish."Ecstasy is a feeling that comes only when the heart is tuned to that pitch of love
which melts it, which makes it tender, which gives it gentleness, which makes it humble."
-Hazrat Inayat Khan, The Sufi Message
© Deborah Taj Anapol